So, it’s been a while since my last post…hmmm, let’s see if I can still do this.
I’ve been super busy traveling around South Africa and exploring new territories, meeting new people and just basically creating memories. Which brings me to the topic of today’s post: live your life and create memories to look back on when you are old. Don’t waste the time and health you have now and most importantly don’t take them for granted. Live it up! Make your future 90- year- old self proud.
I am currently in between jobs and the last couple of months have been exhausting to say the least. The worst part is, I didn’t even realize it, until recently during a friendly conversation with a complete stranger in Cape Town just 2 weeks ago.
“So, what is it that you do?”, he asked me. A harmless question, right? Except it had me break out in a cold sweat and I stammered nervously: “Actually, I am in between jobs right now”, quickly adding: “but it’s looking good. I am positive I’ll find something soon”. I was ready to offer all kinds of explanations as to why I am not currently employed, while desperately trying not to come across as a social outcast. Because, I don’t know about you guys, but where I am from, being unemployed is socially unacceptable.
He smiled and said:” In other words, you are enjoying life. Good for you!” Boom! That sentence right there changed my whole outlook on my situation and I managed to smile back, raise my glass and say:” Yeah, actually that’s exactly what I am doing.”
Cheers to that!
Sadly, the reality couldn’t have been further from the truth. For the last months, I have been nothing but a nervous wreck – constantly stressing out about finding the right job for me (whatever that is) and obsessing over the gap in my CV and what others might think of me. Sleepless nights and constant anxiety were my every day companions. So, no, I can’t say I was enjoying my life.
It took that conversation in Cape Town for me to realize that I was going about it completely the wrong way. My life is worth more than just a job. Let’s face it, I’ll mange to find something eventually. In the meantime, I choose to take this break as a blessing – as some well-deserved me-time in which I can focus on things other than my career and on creating precious memories, which mean something to me. And so, I did… I started doing all the stuff I have always wanted to do, but never really came around to it: Shark diving (being in South Africa helped of course), going to a EDM concert and dancing my ass off and feeling like 20 again, cuddling a cheetah, hiking up a mountain, finally obtaining my fitness instructor license and teaching my first lessons. And the list goes on…
Dear people, it’s not all about the career and the job. Sure, financial independence is important. But, if you can afford it, my advice to you: take a break and take the opportunity to reassess your current situation. There is no time like now to start doing the things you have always wished to do. Bucket lists are good to have, but what’s more important is to actually tick off the things from that list of yours. Do it now rather than tomorrow.
Don’t take the full list to your grave but rather the memories of all the things you experienced (good or bad, exciting or boring). Your grandchildren will want to hear all about that road trip of yours, rather than how you managed to become the regional manager of your company.
So, if in a couple of years time somebody will ask me about the so called gap in my CV, I’ll confidently respond, I was busy creating memories and living my life. Take it or leave it!
Live your life – no excuses! It might not be easy (nobody said it would be) but if you really want to break free or take a break, you’ll find a way to make it happen. Your future self will thank you for it.